Most recently, my attention has been directed to how my thoughts, behaviors and relationships with others affect the condition of my life. For thirty three years I have looked externally for answers. I really thought that my environment dictated my outcomes. That type of thinking puts the onus on others and not on myself for how my life unfolds.
I have cut people out of my life and chosen not to befriend others. I have avoided situations that I knew would cause me discomfort and stayed within the confines of my self created safe existence. I have historically made those decisions based on my feelings of certain people and situations being toxic. Of course, I was always right. I always received what I focused on.
What I failed to realize was that it was me, not others who put the toxins in my life. We have all heard about the laws of attraction. In the past I have read books on the subject and mused over it for a little while and then eventually pushed it out of my consciousness. For some reason it keeps resurfacing and now I am willing to play closer attention.
I have come to realize that what I have focused my energy on over the years is what I continually get back. My thoughts about others and myself always become my reality. I get it now.
Of course I am not saying that if I keep a positive frame of mind that everything and everyone in life will just become perfect. What I understand now is that shifting my thoughts to a higher, lighter more positive plain will draw to me more of what I want. I am putting what I have learned to use now and choosing to focus more energy and effort on that which uplifts me.
You perceptions really are your reality.
For some, this may sound kooky, but what harm is there in making an effort to change your thoughts? It takes a lot of focus and dedication, but the payouts can me tremendous.
A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.~ Mohandas Ghandi